09 November, 2006

Love Versus Infatuation

*Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another.

*Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.


*Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and places about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

*Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.


*Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you can admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end-- in intimacy.

*Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.


*Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating.
Sometimes you check.

*Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels that also and makes them even more trustworthy.


*Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.

*Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person.

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1 comment:

Shyam said...

i also have some matter on qualities and characteristics of love versus infatuation:

Infatuation:


* Develops rather rapidly

* Based on limited characteristics

* Based on the emotion itself

* Is self-centered

* Is multi-person centered

* Changes rapidly

* Loses touch with reality

* Largely outward or physical

* Insecure/Insecurities

* Jealous/Possessiveness



Love:


* Is grown into

* Based on the whole person

* Focuses on the person with whom you are involved

* Is other-centered

* Demonstrates a deep commitment to one person

* Is a gradual development

* Maintains balance of life and priorities

* Involved the total relationship

* Secure/Security

* Trust/Faith