The hunger for love

The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.

~~Mother Teresa~~

आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो

आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो
यूँही पेहलू में बैठे रहो
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो
हाय मार जाएँगे हम तो लूट जाएँगे
ऐसी बातें किया ना करो
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो


तुम ही सोचो ज़रा, क्यूं ना रोके तुम्हे
जान जाती है जब उठ के जाते हो तुम
तुमको अपनी क़सम जान-ए-जान
बात इतनी मेरी माँ लो
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो
यूँही पेहलू में बैठे रहो
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो

वक़्त की क़ैद में ज़िंदगी है मगर
चाँद घड़ियान एही हैं जो आज़ाद हैं
इनको खोकर मेरे जान-ए-जान
उम्र भर ना तरसते रहो
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो
यूँही पेहलू में बैठे रहो
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो

कितना मासूम रंगीन है एह समा
हुस्न और इश्क़ की आज में राज है
कल की किसको ख़बर जान-ए-जान
रोक लो आज की रात को
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो
यूँही पेहलू में बैठे रहो
आज जाने की ज़िद ना करो

Love....Love.....Love...........

Goodbye

I am feeling a whole lot better,
Than I was the other day,
Thank you for your help,
That is what I want to say,

I want you to know I am sorry,
I mean it from my heart,
For every stupid thing I did,
To make us drift apart,

I care about you very much,
You will always be a part of me,
I will make something of myself,
Now you just wait and see,

I will keep on dreaming,
That I meant something to you,
For this does give me comfort,
And it helps to get me through,

Remember all my good points,
If there are any that you know,
Please forget all the bad ones,
Before you turn away and go,

I know that you have left me,
I cannot promise not to cry,
But I do love you my friend,
I guess this is my last goodbye.

Relationships

Yesterday I came across a very interesting mail….it was a usual forward but it asked us an interesting question….Which is the most important thing which is required to build successful relationships? (Between a guy and a gal of course)

It had a few options, which are as follows:

1. Physical attractiveness
2. Regular interaction / talks
3. Trust
4. Destiny / luck
5. Money
6. Sexual intimacy
7. None of the above (why this option ?? , I got the answer this morning….and will tell at the end of this post)
   

These days people are thinking too much about relationships and how to make them successful….so am I after reading that mail….I analyzed the options and tried to figure out which one is the best....(or may be a combination of 2 or more)..

Physical attractiveness…….hmmmm…..its important to an extent…. (For some people nothing starts without this) but it is not the only thing that starts a relationship (again, between a guy and a gal of course).

Regular interaction / talks….ya its very important….if a guy or a girl is trying to ignore the other person, the probability of a successful relationship is very less…

Trust ………it builds up with time……no one starts trusting someone from day one….but it plays a major role once a relationship starts.

Destiny / Luck……may be……but I don’t know how much role it plays.

Money…..sometimes people go for a good relationship if the other person is earning enough money to lead a luxurious life….important for some people while it does not matter for others.

Sexual intimacy……..to an extent…but its not everything….

Now comes the final option…….None of the above……these days people leading corporate life are very busy and have too much work….some of them have no time to spend on building a successful relationship….this option is for them…..for more details read today’s (15^th march, 2007) Bangalore Times….;-)

So in my opinion Regular interaction / talks and trust have to be there to make a relationship work…..your comments are also welcome…

Ya Rabba...(Salaam-E-Ishq)

pyaar hai ya saja, aai mere dil bata
tootata kyon nahi dard ka silsila
is pyaar mein hon kaise kaise imntihaan
ye pyaar likhe kaisi kaisi dastaan
ya rabba de de koi jaan bhi agar
dilbar pe ho na, dilbar pe ho na koi asar
ho ya rabba de de koi jaan bhi agar
dilbar pe ho na, dilbar pe ho na koi asar
pyaar hai ya saja, aai mere dil bata
tootata kyon nahi dard ka silsila

kaisa hai safar wafa ki manjil ka
na hai koi hal dilon ki mushkil ka
dhadkan dhadkan bikhri ranjishein
saansein saansein tooti bandishein
kahi to har lamha honton pe fariyaad hai
kisi ki duniya chaahat mein barbaad hai
ya rabba de de koi jaan bhi agar
dilbar pe ho na, dilbar pe ho na koi asar
ho ya rabba de de koi jaan bhi agar
dilbar pe ho na, dilbar pe ho na koi asar

koi na sune sisakati aanhon ko
koi na dhare tadapati baahon ko
aadhi aadhi puri khwaishein
tooti footi sab farmaaishein
kahin shak hain kahin nafrat ki deewaar hai
kahin jeet mein bhi shamil palpal haar hain
ya rabba de de koi jaan bhi agar
dilbar pe ho na, dilbar pe ho na koi asar
ho ya rabba de de koi jaan bhi agar
dilbar pe ho na, dilbar pe ho na koi asar
ho o o pyaar hai ya saja, aai mere dil bata
tootata kyon nahi dard ka silsila
ho o o o ho o o o
na poocho dard bandon se
hansi kaisi khushi kaisi
musibat sar pe rehati hain
kabhi kaisi kabhi kaisi
ho o o o... rabba, rabba ho o o ho
rabba ho o o, ho o ho rabba

From a broken Heart

I'm not begging you to love me.
I'm not really even asking you.

But, isn't it alright,
If i cherish that hope in my heart?

If i dream of just holding your hand,
It will hurt me - not you.

I will try to keep my eyes from shining,
When they see you.

And i promise i will try not to smile a special smile,
When you say hello.

But please don't ask me,
Not to love you....

Guy Facts

When a guy calls you,
he wants to be with you

When a guy is quiet,
He's listening to you...

When a guy is not arguing,
He realizes he's wrong .

When a guy says, "I'm fine, " after a few
minutes, he means it.

When a guy stares at you,
he wishes you would care about him and wonders if you do.

When you're laying your head on a guy's
chest, he has the world.

When a guy calls you everyday,
he is in love.

When a (good) guy tells you he loves you,
he means it.

When a guy says he can't live without you,
he's with you till your done.

When a guy says, "I miss you, "
he misses you more than you could have ever missed him or anything else .

Reasons to like a woman

Express Your Feelings Today

STORY :

It Started with a poem i wrote for HER in 10th grade


When we first talked to each other
I knew we would always be friends.
Our friendship has kept on growing
And I'll be here for you to the end.

You listen when I have a problem
And help dry the tears from my face.
You take away my sorrow
And put happiness in its place.

We can't forget the fun we've had
Laughing 'til our faces turn blue.
Talking of things only we find funny
People think we're insane-If they only knew!

I guess this is my way of saying thanks
For catching me when I fall.
Thanks once again for being such a good friend
And being here with me through it all.


10th grade

As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

11th grade

The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Senior year

The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Graduation Day

A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.


A Few Years Later

Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Funeral

Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.

MORAL OF THE STORY : Express Your Feelings Today...

Love Versus Infatuation

*Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another.

*Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

*Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and places about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

*Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.

*Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you can admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end-- in intimacy.

*Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

*Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating.
Sometimes you check.

*Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels that also and makes them even more trustworthy.

*Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.

*Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person.

Things You Oughta Know About Love

1. Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love.

2. Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the, "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic.

3. Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring.

4. Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself.

5. If somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to "prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of that love.

6. It is very easy to confuse lust for love. The true measure of romantic love is commitment and trust not physical attraction.

7. Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex can be a part of romantic love but it is never mandatory.

8. Love should make you feel happy, secure and appreciated.

How Guys express their Love..

When a GUY sms's u everyday,
He wants you to know he is fine.

When a GUY is quiet and is alone,
He's is thinking how good you're.

When a GUY looks at you in your eyes,
He wants to tell you how much he loves you and how important you're.

When a GUY keep asking you the samequestion,
He is wondering why you are lying.

When a GUY calls you everyday,
He Miss You and wants your attention.

When a GUY wants to see you everyday,
He cares for you and want to know how are you today.

When a GUY says I love you,
He really means it.

When a GUY says "I Miss You",
He wants to see you immeditely...

Xclusively for Girls

I'm not begging you to love me,
I'm not really even asking you.

But, isn't it alright,
If i cherish that hope in my heart?
If i dream of just holding your hand,
It will hurt me -- not you.

I will try to keep my eyes from shining,
when they see you.
And i promise i will not try to smile a special smile,
When you say hello.

But Please, Dot ask me,
Not to love you.....

What Is Love....?

Love is a profound feeling of tender affection for or intense attraction to another. It is considered a deep, ineffable feeling shared in passionate or intimate interpersonal relationships. However, in different contexts, the word love has a variety of related but distinct meanings: in addition to romantic love, which is characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire, other forms include platonic love, religious love, familial love, and the more casual application of the term to anyone or anything that one considers strongly pleasurable, enjoyable, or desirable, including activities and foods.

Girls' favorite dialogues to Guys

1. "I didn't do anything over the weekend.."
(COMMENT: Impossible ! 5 days of work and nothing to do in weekend....)

2. "I think you're cute!"
(COMMENT: Think..?..are you not sure that I'm cute)

3. "Looks don't matter to me.."
(COMMENT: Then what matters....?...who likes ugly guys)

4. "I want to find a guy who's sensitive.."
(COMMENT: what will you do with his sensitivity....)

5. "I like guys with a sense of humor.."
(COMMENT: every one has sense of humor....I consider myself to have a sense of humor)

6. "I think you're really cool..."
(COMMENT: This one translates to: I'm too much of a coward to tell you the truth)

7. "I'm not really seeing anyone..."
(COMMENT: But I'm seeing you yaar...)

8. "I don't have currency in my cell phone, thats why i didn't send you SMS"
(COMMENT: Go and get a recharge...)

9. "I am a bit busy, Can we chat later"
(COMMENT: I'm also Busy, but always have time for girls..)

10. "I am not angry with you....."
(COMMENT: Doston se naraaz nahin hogi to kya dushmano se hogi....)

11. "I can't go to movie with you today, i have to go to my relative's house"
(COMMENT: Oh ! is it really so...)

12. "All I want is a nice guy that will make me feel special....."
(COMMENT: Am i not a nice guy ?...)


AND THE STORY CONTINUES......